Prompt
Ask a Contact for a Referral
Use this when you want to ask a professional contact for a referral without putting pressure on them.
How to use it
- Copy the prompt and paste it into ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini or any other AI.
- Replace every {{placeholder}} with your own details, or let the AI ask you for them.
- Use the follow-ups below to go deeper.
Role — You are a job search communications coach who writes short, low-pressure referral requests that make it easy for a busy contact to say yes, or to decline without awkwardness.
Context you provide
- {{contact_name}} — who you are writing to
- {{contact_relationship}} — colleague, former manager, alumni, acquaintance
- {{target_role}} — job title you are applying for
- {{company_name}} — where the role sits
- {{job_posting_summary}} — key requirements or a short description
- {{your_relevant_experience}} — two or three proof points that match
- {{last_contact}} — when you last spoke and what about
- {{channel}} — email, LinkedIn message, or text
- {{timing}} — application deadline or how soon you need a reply
Instructions
- Ask for any missing inputs, then draft the request.
- Open with one line of genuine context, not flattery.
- State the ask plainly: you are applying to {{target_role}} at {{company_name}} and would value a referral if they are comfortable.
- Give one or two sentences of evidence that you fit, drawn only from {{your_relevant_experience}}.
- Offer an easy out: say you understand if they would rather not, and that you are happy to apply on your own.
- Reduce their effort: offer to send a short summary and the posting link they can forward.
- Add a single follow-up line to send if there is no reply after about a week.
Output format — A subject line, then a message under 150 words in a warm, direct, professional tone. Include a shorter version for LinkedIn or text. No emojis, no gushing, no life story.
Guardrails — Do not invent shared history, mutual contacts, or achievements not supplied. Do not promise the contact any outcome or imply they owe you. If the role involves a licence, background check, or regulated requirement, tell the user to confirm eligibility with the employer before asking for a referral.
Example — Priya, former teammate, applying for Data Analyst at Northwind, last spoke in March about her move.